OBESE AND PREGNANT/WHAT IT TAKES/ VIDEO 1/ 4|21|19
Apr 21, 2019
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and I was very alone because nobody
close to me was dealing with the issues
I was dealing with which was I wanted a
baby so bad and I desired it and I would
go beyond what links it took for me to
get to that point it didn't matter if my
doctor said no it didn't matter if my
family said Amy you need to lose weight
and get healthy first it didn't matter
none of that mattered to me all that
mattered was that I was to get pregnant
and have a baby of my own because that
was what I wanted and that's what I
desired and there is nothing that says
that I am NOT good enough or worthy
enough to be able to get pregnant and
have a baby of my own and start my own
family I'm gonna take you guys back a
little bit if you've already watched my
first video some of this could be a
little bit of a repeat but it's
important to watch everything because
like I said there's gonna be multiple
videos that go along with this video
sharing my entire journey from all of my
pregnancies to my births to after my
births and so on and so forth and where
I am today with my cycles and what you
know what turns of events that I'm going
to take at this point so today's video
is covering what it takes to get
pregnant when you think about it you
think okay I want to get pregnant I want
to have a baby you know the birds and
the bees so we don't have to go into
that part of the discussion but you know
the the the tools that it takes to get
pregnant it doesn't come that easy
sometimes for some women it takes hard
work dedication and the desire so strong
to get to the point of being able to
succeed ly get pregnant and carry a baby
for women that suffer with fertility it
takes our bodies a lot more to prepare
than for an average woman that does not
suffer from fertility that could just
possibly go in to the desire of wanting
to start a family and boom they find
themselves pregnant the next month and
they have no issues there are women that
know their body very very well know when
they ovulate know when they're gonna
start their periods but then there's
other women like me I don't know when I
ovulate I don't know if I ovulate my
periods are all over the place so
they're beans that there are women out
there that it takes much more work it's
obviously going to take your body even
that much more work to prepare itself to
do this big job that you're wanting it
to do and the big task that you're going
to be going through for the next
multiple amounts of months so I'm here
to share my journey with you guys and
let you guys know again that you're not
alone I'm here to answer all the
questions all the burning details that
you might not feel comfortable asking or
receiving from somebody else but you can
watch a video and just receive it all
without even having to show your own
personal face and know that you've got
the answers you need now so what it
takes to get pregnant for me I I started
my period when I was 11 years old my
periods were they were kind of fluctuate
you know I mean I had a pretty normal
period per say for a teenager not most
the time for a teenage girl when you
start your cycle you're not gonna be
100% ready our regular sorry it takes a
few years for your body to adjust to the
hormones and to everything going on
because starving your period is a big
thing for a one's body to go through
it's a whole new job that your body's
not used to doing it's now got this huge
thing that it's going to start doing
every
months so of course your body is gonna
take time for it to adjust pretty much
my body kicked in and I was pretty
regular from the beginning there would
be a little bit of time in between my
periods maybe I wouldn't start on the
exact day but I pretty much knew like
roughly around about when I was gonna
start my period I knew I bled for seven
days straight like there was no joke it
was start to finish was from day one to
day seven and I would be off but my
periods were always very very very very
heavy I always have had heavy periods
and that has never changed when I got
and that went from about the age of
eleven to I would say about the age of
16 I started putting on more weight I've
always been pretty I guess you'd say on
the heavier side not obese but just on
the heavier side but when I got when I
turned 16 I started to put the weight
more on I think that my body was
starting to adjust to womanhood you know
you're gaining more curves and different
things like that and I think my body
just started to take its own course of
action where it wanted to put the extra
weight and it took on a little more
weight than it needed to but that is
when I noticed that my period started to
really fluctuate I would go you know a
month or two without a period then I'd
have a period then I would have a period
that would last a good seven months then
I would stop and not have a period for a
year and this went on until I was 23 at
23 we went in for my first DNC because
they said that the tissue in my all
around my ovaries and things were just
really thick and so because of that my
body was thinking that because when you
have a period clearly that's to flush
out all the tissue and all of that but
if my if your body has built up so much
tissue and your your period is to push
that all that tissue out but it's so
thick it can't that's why your body
continues to keep bleeding and bleeding
and bleeding
because your body is thinking that you
have tissue still need new paths what
you do but it's not going to because
it's just gotten so thick so in return
you have to go and have a DNC where they
go inside and they clean out all of your
woman organs and they clean all that
cart Latour the tissue out and pretty
much then after that you should have a
normal period and that's exactly what
happened to me I had normal cycles did
great for about two years about the age
of 25 I started having issues again and
so I then again went back in had another
DNC done so this is my second DNC and
I'm at 25 at this time at the age of 27
um I met my husband and I flew to Egypt
where he was at and we got married with
three days of me being in Egypt and
miracle beyond itself I got pregnant
three days in which means I got pregnant
on my honeymoon night woo
so I came back to the states found out I
was pregnant and I successfully carried
that baby until 19 weeks I had a fall
and I ruptured my placenta and I didn't
know that I had a small leak in my bag
and therefore my water I didn't have
enough water to sustain my pregnancy
plus I had a horrible infection on top
of that that happened due to the the
burst of the bag or the sack and so I
sadly lost my baby at 19.5 weeks but it
wasn't my weight that caused my
pregnancy to end so that wasn't us that
wasn't a case of oh it's because I was
big now we'll fast forward a little bit
so in 2013 I decided I was ready that
was in 2010 when I lost my little boy so
too
2013 I was ready to start trying again
my heart had healed enough that I felt
like okay I'm ready
what are the things that I need to do in
order to do this so I came to my husband
I told him I said you know I think I'm
ready to start trying again for another
baby he was totally on board okay well
it's you know let's do this
at this point I was 300 and no sorry I
was 420 pounds and I made a doctor's
appointment with my OBGYN and we had
been having sexual intercourse
obviously for well from 2010 to 2013 we
were having intimacy and I never fell
pregnant so I figured something's
probably a little bit off somewhere
because I was not being able to get
pregnant um my period started to act up
again and all of that good stuff so
January of 2000 and okay hold on so I'm
going faster than I can think okay so
2013 I made the appointment with my
OBGYN when in thinking he would help me
with a fertility medical clomid clomid
is to help ripen your eggs basically and
to help your body to all eight and push
down eggs so that you can get pregnant I
went in so hopeful came out in absolute
tears because my doctor looked at me and
said you would be a I he would be a
malpractice if he was to give me clomid
and I needed to go and seek out
weight-loss surgery first which I had
never even mentioned weight loss surgery
I need to research weight loss surgery
first and lose 200 pounds come back to
him and then he'd be happy to help us
well that wasn't what I wanted to hear I
was not about you know I wasn't opposed
to losing weight but I was not there to
talk about weight loss surgery I was
there to talk about getting pregnant
so I really did a lot of thinking you
know within myself and I was like no you
know what I'm not gonna settle with this
I'm not gonna take a doctor telling me I
can't get pregnant I'm not gonna hear my
friends that should be there to support
me say well you need to lose weight you
need to work on yourself you need to get
healthy and then you're gonna get
pregnant who are you to tell me that I
have to work on myself just to be worthy
enough to be healthy enough to get
pregnant how dare you that's not that's
not for you to state for me so I decided
to do a lot of research myself and I
found what is called vitex it's an
herbal herbal vitamin it's vitex and
then there's also mecha root you take
those two combined and that helps your
fertility I found it on Amazon I ordered
both bottles and I started him boom
right away I wanted to like do what I
could do cuz I was like you know what
I'm not gonna let somebody control what
when and where and how I'm gonna get
pregnant so I started taking those along
with a prenatal pill and I took those
for six months my cycle was still kind
of and not being the best
so in January I went in and had a DNC
another one and clean me all out my
cycle started becoming normal but I was
on a medicine to help get my periods to
start up and stop when they needed to be
and now was due to my DNC but I took
that took that as a good thing because I
took that for my advantage so my friend
so the the vitex and stuff was I wasn't
feeling I felt like I was starting to
work but I wasn't feeling like it was
giving me everything that I needed
clearly to be able to get pregnant I
took that for six months I got off of it
in October of 2013 I had my DNC in 2014
when my friend was going back to Mexico
for a visit she said hey I could bring
you back clomid they sell it over the
counter well I thought she was joking
but clearly she was not joking so by the
end when she went she picked me up a
couple of rounds of clomid and I was
like okay you know I'm gonna do this I
had been on clomid once before here in
the states and it was given to me by a
doctor I was on the highest dose ever
and I never ovulated when you take
clomid they will have you take your your
medicine through your cycle and then
they will have you come in at the end of
your period to take blood work to see if
you ovulated every time I would go in
they would say no you never awful ated
and I was at 200 milligrams that's the
highest dose that they could ever give
you for clomid so I was like okay I
guess my buddies clearly not ablating um
and I didn't ever look back on it until
I went back to my OBGYN and asked for it
again but this time he was saying no so
my friend went back to Mexico brought me
back the medicine and I started it when
she got back I was on my period so I
couldn't start it that month so I
actually started it in April of 2014 and
so when you get the pill the pills are
of 50 milligrams so I was like okay I'm
gonna start it up the lowest dose and
I'll work myself up if I don't fall
pregnant within my amount of time now
remember I'm not under doctor's eye so I
kind of been controlling how I'm doing
this myself I'm not gonna have blood
work to tell me if I all ate it or not
because it just wasn't wasn't feasible
I'm gonna take a valise and tests that I
had bought through Amazon which I will
link all of this information I will link
it all down below in my description box
so that way you guys can just go
straight to what I'm telling you guys
and you can look it up for yourselves
and be able to use these things the only
thing that I will not be able to link is
the clomid because clearly it's not
something that you have to buy it in
person
where I did so I started it in April I
started 50 milligrams may came I started
my period 5 days into my period I
started my next cycle which this month I
was like okay I'm gonna go up to 100 I'm
not even gonna do another round of 50
I'm gonna do 100 I want I just want to
see if this is gonna work and during
this time I was taking my ovulation test
and it was showing that I was not all
fellating at all but I'm just like
whatever but I was still you know we
were still watching the chart and you
know doing what we needed to do during
the time set I knew that I was probably
highest for fertility and things like
that may okay may came went June came I
started my period again so that was
April I took 50 milligrams May I took a
hundred milligrams June I start my
period same thing took a hundred
milligrams is still getting no ovulation
positive tests so I'm just like oh my
god really don't know I don't know
what's going on July comes along and and
mind you during this time I'm also
taking my Avila are my prenatal pills so
I never stopped taking my prenatal pill
from the time I started my prenatal pill
and I had started that clear back in
March of 2013 and I have been taking it
so by now I've already been on a
prenatal pill for over a year because I
started it in March and we're already in
June at this point in 2014 so June comes
and goes I take my course of medicine
just like I was supposed to it but I did
100 milligrams July comes and I didn't
start appearing I thought you know
whatever like I just I wasn't really
paying much attention I was trying not
to you know make a big fuss out of it
and I told all the I was like hey you
know we were at Walmart and I was like
you know we need to pick up a couple
pregnancy tests because I should be you
know testing here soon now I was taking
pregnancy tests every month and of
course they were all
negative because I wasn't pregnant so he
was like oh okay you know let's go ahead
and just pick a couple of it I was like
well I'm gonna take him any time soon
but I'd rather have them here just in
case you know if I want to take one so
the night of June or no the night of
July 10th we had bought the pregnancy
test I put him away I went to bed that
night and in the middle of the night I
had a dream that I was pregnant
you guys this dream was so real like I
literally I will never ever ever ever
ever forget this dream because it was so
real that when I woke up that following
morning of July 14th argillite 11th
sorry I was like I'm pregnant I'm I'm
pregnant and call me a weirdo but I was
like the whole day well the whole
morning I kept telling myself I'm
pregnant I'm pregnant I know I'm
pregnant I am pregnant but you know when
you've tried so hard to get pregnant you
will do anything you can to somehow
mentally make yourself believe that you
see two lines on a test you know I did
the whole thing I see two lines I was
trying to manipulate a lady to see two
lines every single time I seen a test I
see new lines but really there was no
two lines so I was like well I have that
pregnancy test in them the cupboard I
could take it you know I know I'm
pregnant I just fill it but I was like
huh but I told Holly I wasn't gonna take
it I kept going back for the finally I
was like I'm gonna take it so I did take
it and lo and behold very very faint one
of those guys up to the Sun mine to see
but there was two lines and I was like I
know it I know it I know it I know I
know I'm pregnant
so a couple days went by and we kept
testing during that time and the lines
were getting obviously darker so we knew
I was pregnant
it just to start from March of 2013
knowing this is something I wanted
starting to take them the herbal
medicine and taking the prenatal pill it
that just right there is a step in the
direction of preparing your body for
something that you know that you want
and you're gonna do everything you can
did ice did I make it a big thing to try
and lose weight no I did not
I had already so much going on in my
mind that you know I knew if I was to
get pregnant it would be because it was
supposed to be I successfully got
pregnant I did and I did it off of I
believe starting to take the herbal
medicine along with my prenatal pill and
along with taking the clomid that I got
in Mexico over-the-counter I am going to
disclaim this right now I am NOT a
health care provider I am NOT a doctor I
am NOT a nurse I am a simple individual
female human that has had major
fertility issues that has gone through
the loss of a pregnancy that has also
gone through to successful pregnancies I
have walked every path in life that
comes with fertility and I am here to
just share my story with you guys so
that you all know that you're not alone
in this long long long journey that
you're ahead of yourself but that you
can watch these videos and know you are
not alone and it can happen and it will
happen at the right time but I do want
to put it out there though that I am NOT
a health care provider I am NOT a doctor
I am NOT a nurse
I am nothing in between I am just a
normal female human being that is
wanting to share my story with everybody
out there that is needing and searching
for answers and just having giving that
hope to women out there that honestly
are hopeless right now that feels like
you'll never ever ever get to the point
of a trophy
and that trophy is being able to get
pregnant and to have a baby and start
your own family that's all I'm here for
and I know like I said at the beginning
of this video it was one of the
loneliest times for me because I felt
like nobody understood nobody understood
that me 400 pounds I just wanted a baby
I wanted a baby that I could carry in my
body and give birth to and love and
cherish and be able to call mine and
nobody understood that everybody looked
at it in all the most negative ways only
I and my husband only my husband and I
looked at it in a positive wear realm
and because of that nothing could stop
me nothing was going to stop me from
making my dreams happen stay tuned for
the next part two series of this video I
hope this channel of stories will help
anybody out there that is longing for a
friend at the time of maybe your lowest
times wipe those beautiful tears away
give a great smile and know again you're
not alone I am here for you and there
are many women out there that are
suffering just like you and I hope you
guys have a wonderful day and I will
talk to you very soon bye